29 June 2010

What Not to Say About Someone's Appearance

Don’t say: “You look tired.” 
Why: It implies she doesn’t look good. 
Instead say: “Is everything OK?” We often blurt the “tired” comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask. 

Don’t say: “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!” 
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive. 
Instead say: “You look fantastic.” And leave it at that. If you’re curious about how she got so svelte, add, “What’s your secret?”

Don’t say: “You look good for your age.” 
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great―compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: “You look great.” 

Don’t say: “I could never wear that.” 
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. (“I could never wear that because it’s so ugly.”) 
Instead say: “You look so good in skinny jeans.” If you slip, say something like “I could never wear that…because I wasn't blessed with your long legs.” 

[ Courtesy of Realsimple.com ]

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